I absolutely enjoyed this movie. If you haven't seen it yet, GO! You won't be sorry, I promise. But just a word of caution, it isn't a love story.
There were bits and pieces of the movie that I found relating to so much. Parts when I laughed a little louder than the person next to me (Snowball) and bits where I had to hold back the tears because it was too close to home. This one part talked about how sometimes you hold on to a person a little longer than you should because you only remember the good stuff and forget why you had to let go in the first place. Isn't that SO true! Towards the end of any relationship, you only see the ugliness of it all but in due time you look back and somehow remember the person almost in good light.
Every relationship, every person you meet, experiences good or bad, is a lesson waiting to be realized. I truly believe that we are all teachers and students at one point or another. Sometimes you teach someone the value of compassion, love, trust and honesty and then there are other times when you get schooled about lies, deceit, indifference, mistrust and false hopes. And vice-versa.
I once had a relationship that ended on such a bitter note that I did not want anything to do with him. I was so angry and resentful that I was not able to see the bigger picture - the "everything happens for a reason" line was not cutting it for me. I was so wrapped up in my dismay that I remained angry for a while.
Take a quarter and hold it up in front of the moon,
What do you see?
You see the quarter and the beautiful moon behind it.
Move the quarter closer to your eye and farther away from the moon,
What do you see?
Your vision shifts and your focus is now the quarter
until such a time that it's the only thing you see.
The SMALL quarter inhibits you from seeing the BIG moon .
That's where I was - blinded by hate, fear and resentment that I was not able to see the reason behind it all. The bigger picture. I had to go through what I did to realize that what I went through was but a small event that eventually lead me to bigger and better days ahead.
So the next time you feel as if life is conspiring to bring you down, love is hopeless, your job sucks or you'll never be truly happy until you land the next best ___(fill in the blank), just take a moment and think about moving the quarter a little farther away to make room for the moon. If at first you only see slivers or glimpse of what could be, keep trying. The moon WILL always be bigger than the quarter. Meaning, what you tell yourself and the made up stories you've created is limited to what you know while the bigger picture is boundless and full of amazing possibilities.
So with time, combined with the resilience of the heart and the drive to become better than I once was, I found myself on the other side. I was no longer angry. In fact I didn't even remember what I was so worked up about. There was a point when I can actually talk about him without cupping my mouth as if I'm about to vomit :)
Wisdom comes from experiences that we have had, from the lessons that we have learned and from the mistakes that we have made. I am grateful for the opportunity of growth that came with it no matter how painful and hard it was at times.
Mistake > Lesson > Experience = Wisdom
So being the student of life and an affinity for perpetual beginning, I guess that there'll be plenty more of mistakes to be made, lessons to be learned, experiences to be had and ultimately have the bragging rights of Wisdom.
When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
his holiness, The Dalai Lama
Connection accomplished:
Dee's apartment hallway has this hilarious wall paper. We couldn't resist...
Tanya moonlights as a bartender. So we hung out with her all of Saturday night and hogged the juke box with "girl power" music while she "took advantage" of our vulnerable drinking nature ;)
She repeatedly twisted our arms by crafting yummy drinks that kept coming like it's going out of style...hee hee
One Tequila
Two Tequila
Three Tequila
Floor!
3:00 am
Hungry girls, a bag of frozen hash browns, Sriracha hot sauce, Malaysian instant noodles = Hilariously funny, I'm too drunk to care what I'm eating meal :)
In Joy and In Spirit,
Jakey
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